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Why I won’t unfriend you despite your abhorrent posts

Arguing about politics on social media accomplishes nothingIn the aftermath of the Paris terrorist attacks, I read a number of Facebook posts that made me sick to my stomach. Even worse, a number of them were from friends I’ve known for years.

I could have done what some of my other friends have done and blocked and unfriended people who made posts like that. I could have invoked Godwin’s Law and called them a bunch of knuckle-dragging Nazis. Instead, I scrolled past those posts. I didn’t do it because I was afraid of confronting them or to give them my silent consent. I did it because I didn’t want to be part of the problem.

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Be thankful for the bad stuff

Migrant Mother Photo from the Great DepressionIt’s November. While some argue whether a coffee cup in Christmas colors is sufficiently Christmassy, we may forget that there is an important holiday this month, Thanksgiving.

Giving thanks isn’t some wimpy rainbows-and-unicorns sentiment. It sometimes forces us to deal with guilt when we fail to do the good we should. Furthermore, gratitude isn’t just for the good stuff that happens in our lives. We should be grateful for the bad stuff too.

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Review: The Word Game by Steena Holmes

The Word Game by Steena HolmesA sex offender is a parent’s worst nightmare. That person’s crimes not only irreparably harm the victims, but they can tear families and communities apart and cause pain that lasts for years.

This is the subject of The Word Game, the latest by New York Times and USA Today bestselling author Steena Holmes. She has shown skill and personality in her light-hearted romances, and she shows a deft hand in dealing with this heavier subject.

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Sixty things I learned at Reseda High School

Reseda High School Front Entrance
This year, Reseda High School is celebrating its 60th anniversary. On my website, I’ve shared a number of the lessons I’ve learned at this school. For this list, I picked the 60 most important. Although they pertain to my time there in the late 1970s, they apply equally to high school students today and to all of us throughout our lives.

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How to become important

Man in bow tie and suspendersWe all want to feel important. Part of it is a human need to matter and to feel like we’re doing something of value with our lives. Another part of it is our media-driven culture where some believe that if you’re not famous, you don’t exist. That part has led people to do terrible things to gain notoriety. If you are one of those people who needs attention to feel valued, this post isn’t for you.

But if you want to matter and do something of value, there’s an easy way to become important: help someone else.

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