It’s one of those moments that can be painful for a parent to watch. My son was called up to pitch a Winterball game. He had pitched a third of an inning a couple of weeks ago and struck out the batter he faced. But today, the pitches just weren’t finding the strike zone. He walked one batter, then another, and another. To his manager’s credit, he didn’t pull him from the mound. He let him pitch.
By the time the other team had gone through the order, he walked in six runs — which isn’t unusual in a division where kids are learning to pitch for the first time. But my son didn’t get upset. He didn’t give up. He kept his composure, and he kept pitching. For that, I am proud of him.
There are many times when things don’t go our way. Our notebook crashes in the middle of a demonstration. We lose our train of thought in the middle of a talk. We accidentally knock over a glass of ice tea in the middle of business dinner, and it drips into the lap of our best client. In those moments, we feel like the pitcher who just walked in a run. We stand alone and vulnerable.
When these things happen — and they happen to all of us at some point — we just need to keep our composure and keep pitching. A few apologies and a small joke at our expense (as well as an offer to pay the dry cleaning bill in the case of the ice tea) can smooth things over.
Most people are forgiving, because they have been through their own embarrassing situations before. No one got down on my son for his performance on the mound today. He earned respect for how he hung in there and composed himself.
My son gave me a wonderful lesson today. When the breaks don’t go our way, don’t give up. Just keep pitching.
Have you seen The Messengers on TLC? This is another one of those reality TV competition shows, but this one is about public speaking. For that reason, it is “Must See TV” for all of us who want to learn about public speaking. It’s certainly on my viewing schedule, but I have a few reservations about it.
Each episode, the contestants go through some challenging experience. The first week, they had to live on Skid Row as homeless people (but homeless people in really nice down sleeping bags). The second week, they had to pick crops along side migrant farmworkers. They then give a two-minute speech based on their experiences. The audience members vote on the speaker they liked the best. The speaker with the lowest number of votes gets eliminated. The last remaining speaker wins the grand prize of a speaking and publishing deal.
The speeches are the best part of the show. Each contestant has a different approach to speaking. One speaks with rhythm and poetry. Another speaks from his religious beliefs. One tries to emulate his favorite motivational speaker. And some, you wonder how the producer could have possibly picked them. The first eliminated contestant told the audience he had to pee and then gave a lame “I really don’t know what to say” speech. An unfortunate part of the program is that the producers don’t show a couple of speeches in their entirety because they took up a considerable chunk of time showing the experience of the week.
The judges are another part of the show that I find weak. To be fair, there isn’t much that the two judges, Richard Greene and Bobby Schuller, could say in the few seconds that they address the contestants. You can’t give a full Toastmasters evaluation in that time. But they either gush about how “authentic” a speaker is or find some reason to rip him or her apart. In the early episodes, it’s clear which speeches work and which didn’t. As the weaker speakers are eliminated, and the differences in speech quality become narrower, I hope the judges will point out more what makes one speech work better than the other. (With fewer contestants, they should have more time to do that.)
Despite the weaknesses in the show, there is plenty that The Messengers can offer a budding speaker. It’s beneficial to watch how these speakers turn their experiences into a two-minute speech. It also helps to see what works in a motivational speech. The best ones tell a personal story, enabling the audience to connect to the messenger and his or her message at an emotional level. Subtle speaking styles such as rhyme and repetition prove effective, while over-the-top histrionics do not.
Most importantly, I appreciate how public speaking is treated as an art and something worthy of a television show. It sure beats watching bad singing and nasty alliances.